tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post7095148282880978536..comments2024-01-22T07:52:20.050-05:00Comments on Soulfari: Fathers should not Trouble the landAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07866639097998917122noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-22649902547511920412012-04-20T06:14:58.039-04:002012-04-20T06:14:58.039-04:00Oh how I love your heart sister and your willingne...Oh how I love your heart sister and your willingness to share form your story...priceless! The stats are overwhelming when it comes to fatherlessness...over 14 million children will go to sleep tonight in a home with no father in it. We need godly dads to spread their influence over their children and their communities.<br /><br />May God help us...Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-40434906105622983892012-04-20T00:03:45.825-04:002012-04-20T00:03:45.825-04:00Well, as usual, I'm going to be blunt. Hopefu...Well, as usual, I'm going to be blunt. Hopefully, not too blunt. Don't want to drive you nuts.<br /><br />The father issue is very important, and I know that after having such a rough childhood. Also, my former husband, a Christian, but with a lot of tough background issues, poured his anger on me and the kids. After 15 years together, when he would step forward for a while and then drop back [I think something connected to mental problems, but he refused to have counseling], he said, "I know what I need to do to be the right kind of Christian husband and father, and I'm not going to do it." A few months later, as his physical abuse of the kids--especially my son-- increased, the Lord told me very clearly to get out. A year after I left, God gave me my sweetheart of a husband and he was everything for the kids they ever could have wanted as youngsters. BUT they were teens and didn't want anything to interfere with the lives they were headed for... including addictions.<br /><br />Even years later, I was struggling. I felt guilty b/c my kids stopped walking with the Lord. then, at church a pastor was talking about this sort of situation and he said that the stats show that IF the father is a solid Christian, 85% of the kids will remain with the Lord. If the father is NOT a true Christian, and the mother is, the result will be the 15%.<br /><br />I don't know whether that's actually true or not, but Dave said that he has observed much of the similar situations, since he was a youth leader at a church. Percentage or not, a good and godly father, can have a huge impact on the family. [Now that doesn't mean I don't have to be nice and do the best I can with kids and grandkids...oh, well...;-).]<br /><br />As usual, you're filled with good thinking.Joanne Nortonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-12542073260571133292012-04-19T11:34:53.415-04:002012-04-19T11:34:53.415-04:00So true Eddy...focus, dedication...those are great...So true Eddy...focus, dedication...those are great tools for staying on mission for our families!Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-30741801981973540002012-04-19T11:27:16.869-04:002012-04-19T11:27:16.869-04:00I agree with Dusty, but will add that we need to s...I agree with Dusty, but will add that we need to stay focused on and dedicated to our families.Too many fathers have too many children by different women.Ed Damasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-81619447538532917662012-04-19T11:24:29.972-04:002012-04-19T11:24:29.972-04:00I suspect that you have used a dad's secret we...I suspect that you have used a dad's secret weapon when you troubled your land....mainly asking for forgiveness. I know I have!Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-5826392435072891052012-04-19T11:22:35.905-04:002012-04-19T11:22:35.905-04:00Thanks Michael...the art of engagement is vital to...Thanks Michael...the art of engagement is vital to "Not Troubling" our land. Bless ya!Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-20513896008455229692012-04-19T10:25:45.874-04:002012-04-19T10:25:45.874-04:00You provided a wonderful spiritual breakfast for u...You provided a wonderful spiritual breakfast for us today, Jay!<br /><br />Even apathy troubles the land. Abandoned relationships don't heal by themselves. Like you said, "Engage!"Michaelhttp://longingsend.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-85480532257072152292012-04-19T09:41:14.974-04:002012-04-19T09:41:14.974-04:00This is a tough one. I've troubled my children...This is a tough one. I've troubled my children with my issues, I push often and forget gentleness. I've ran before getting council. On and on. This is a good reminder, I've read that verse countless times and never really looked at it like that. Nice job, solid Truth.floydhttp://theregoi.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-64622611189987315592012-04-19T07:54:18.184-04:002012-04-19T07:54:18.184-04:00I so appreciate the expression of your heart here ...I so appreciate the expression of your heart here Bee. Mr. T was a godly example for both of us and our kids reap the benefit of that example. Of course, our heavenly Father is the one who "set" us in families and all glory goes to Him!<br /><br />Thanks my sister and yes, it is more than OK...it's wonderful to see my writing bless someone. Appreciate the kind and wise words BJ!Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-65000595134508133022012-04-19T07:50:53.564-04:002012-04-19T07:50:53.564-04:00Absolutely Corinne! We don't want to add our l...Absolutely Corinne! We don't want to add our love ones to the list of "causalities of war". Thanks for your input and insight.Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-31678979058999207042012-04-19T06:37:53.530-04:002012-04-19T06:37:53.530-04:00What a great reflection, Jay. I guess anyone we ar...What a great reflection, Jay. I guess anyone we are given to love is our 'land' and we better not spoil it! Corinne Rodrigueshttp://www.everydaygyaan.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-9298660873798552742012-04-18T22:59:05.873-04:002012-04-18T22:59:05.873-04:00Dear JayBro ... love how you write. :) It seems th...Dear JayBro ... love how you write. :) It seems the culture today is full of coarseness existing in both men and women - and gentleness screams to be found by those who can hear. In my own life, growing up without a dad and not seeing a lot of gentleness in important relationships in my family; it was only the hand of Jesus reaching down to forge that new pathway in my heart, which enabled me to taste and then desire to exercise that sweet fruit. <br /><br />If not for Abba Father, I would be lost in the "unnecessary roughness" of incivility and unkindness, as that is what I saw most in those tender, formative years. So thankful the curse was broken and God showed me wonderful Dad examples like Marshall Temple and many others. While I know this book is geared towards fathers, your words are timely encouragement for us all ... including this Mom. Hope that's ok. ^, ^Beezeytemplenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-36818578370342570102012-04-18T20:00:03.437-04:002012-04-18T20:00:03.437-04:00A great recipe for success...thanks Tim!A great recipe for success...thanks Tim!Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-8757426781944078242012-04-18T15:41:27.917-04:002012-04-18T15:41:27.917-04:00Love God. Humbly and honestly desire to obey Him....Love God. Humbly and honestly desire to obey Him. His grace will make up for any shortfall.Tim Millardnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-50041520523091192712012-04-18T10:36:31.234-04:002012-04-18T10:36:31.234-04:00As Jean-Luc Picard would say....ENGAGE! Well put m...As Jean-Luc Picard would say....ENGAGE! Well put my brother!Jay Cookinghamhttp://soulfari.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-208483639990881800.post-21464928149577655152012-04-18T10:23:55.738-04:002012-04-18T10:23:55.738-04:00We can stop being disconnected, absent, and irrita...We can stop being disconnected, absent, and irritated by our family.Dusty Rayburnhttp://rlcblog.comnoreply@blogger.com