"I remember the days of old; I meditate on all thy works; I muse on the work of thy hands." - Psalm 143:5

Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Marriage Encounter




This past weekend my son Matthew married his love Samantha, the first nuptials in the Cookingham clan. In the afterglow of a glorious day, I think of the lives connected, how the story mingles the past with the future, engraving its own verses into the narrative. Crossroads, cross sections… the powerful weaving of hearts, flowing with immense beauty and grace.

Such is the strength of marriage, what it adds to the storyline, its flavor, its spark and the complete wonder of oneness. The covenant of marriage dances with our spirit and marinates our heart with total abandonment to love’s call of freedom. It is a song that sings to the deepest part of who we are and woos us to surrender our heart to another.

This encounter, this wonderful exchange of wills, is designed by the Father to set us free. Oneness is not meant to separate us but to complete us and teach us how to love as completely as He does. For God so loved… He gave, and it is this precious gift He imparts into the covenant of marriage.

"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
- Mark 10:9


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Thursday, October 15, 2015

How Sonship Shapes a Man's Identity


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The-Dr.-Vibe-Show-Info-For-Black-Men-And-Those-Who-Love-Them copyHad a great opportunity to be interviewed by my new friend and brother, Dr. Vibe last night on his very popular DR. Vibe Show. You have to check out his site and log on to one of his broadcasts, always engaging and informative and sure to bless.

The subject matter is one I'm passionate about, men discovering their true identity and the threats against them. When a man loses his identity he also loses his sense of purpose, he loses his way and surrenders his heart to lesser things. An orphan slave/mentality will lead us off course; we grow distant from the Father in every way imaginable. Moreover, IF we are distant to the Father’s heart then every heart entrusted to us will feel the same effect.

Father God did not battle for our hearts to turn us into slaves or worker drones. He didn’t leave us as orphans, no He sent Jesus to redeem us and make it possible to have a deep relationship with Him. Jesus shows us how it done…what sonship looks like.

1 John 3:1 says this….

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.

What this Scripture says to me is that the world doesn’t have a clue what a son looks like but it doesn’t know the Father. So, it doesn’t matter what the world says, or our past, or the enemy says about our identity…God calls us (not merely a title, but a legal status) His sons!

Sonship continues to be God’s best strategy to rescue our identity.

We need to see ourselves as sons… and to understand the fullness of the love of the Father for us. It’s the transformation of the way we think, the renewing of our mindset and our hearts.

Sonship speaks this into a man… Identity and Purpose

Identity = Significance, value, worth, importance, answers the question of
“Who am I?”

This is the heart of who you are

Sonship solidifies that identity and freedom flows from the relationship we share with Father God.

Purpose = Direction, focus, motivation, design, answers the question
“Why am I here?”

This is the heart of your mission

Sonship corrects and directs the steps of a man; it aligns his spirit with Father God’s and prepares it for action. Sonship convinces a man that he was made for something greater than himself.

Your true identity is not what you project, not what you show off…our manhood, our masculinity is based on who God says we are

These are just some of the thoughts we touched on last night for more watch the replay of last night's Dr.Vibe show with me and cast of characters who love God and helping other men. https://blab.im/jjaylw

Follow Dr.Vibe on Twitter @drvibeshow


Thursday, October 1, 2015

Accidental Guest


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I was recently an "accidental" guest on a video podcast hosted by Dr. Vibe (see here). I was watching online because I'm due to be interviewed by Dr.Vibe this coming Friday and I wanted to check the show out. As I was listening I got invited into the conversation (around the 20 minute mark) about "Men and Power, can they handle it?". I had a blast and was honored that these men allowed me to put some of my thoughts into a fascinating topic.

The surprise invitation made me realize how important it is to be ready to tell your story of redemption...the story of how you came into the greatest story there is.

But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. 1 Peter 3:15

It's amazing how Father God used this "accidental" invite as an opportunity for His name to be gloried and for people to hear the message of hope. For this I am thankful, humbled and reminded to be prepared.

Anyways, if you have an hour plus to kill, check this show out and let me know what you think....bless you all!