Spoken For



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“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.” Proverbs 5:18

I wanted my first post of 2013 to be about the adventure of marriage. This wonderful roller coaster ride of emotions, experiences and discoveries is a calling. It’s a sacred journey that calls two individuals to become one.

That my friend…is an adventure

When my wife looked into my eyes and said “I do” 30 years ago, she made my dreams come true and I became the happiest man on the planet. Christine helped me understand my heart, helped it feel again and come alive. The adventure of being married has been breathtaking and freeing…I love the feeling of being hers. Through the covenant of marriage, my bride has done something amazing.

She rescued my heart

That was no small task, I was damaged goods and in my mind, a bit strange. She took part in the Father’s restoration project and I am a better man because of it. My heart is hers, my life is hers and this romance is a blessed fellowship of two souls. Marriage is a treasure…a fortune of God’s favor.

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

I remember meeting my wife at a local flower show on a rainy, depressing day last year. I was walking out of dull grayness and stepping into beauty. Seeing my wife among all those flowers reminded me that marriage is all about beauty, the adventurous, passionate beauty of two people becoming one. Men need that beauty, that sense of wonder; it answers a longing deep within us. That secret nerve vibrates with a desire that can only sync with a heart made to beat for us, a woman’s heart.

“In every man's heart there is a secret nerve that answers to the vibrations of beauty.” ~ Christopher Morley

I sometimes think that we (men) are afraid of beauty, thinking it makes us soft and “girly”. The truth is that appreciating beauty does not make us soft; it helps us understand softness. Part of my wife’s beauty, her strength and what makes her captivating is her softness. That strength is what rescued my heart and reminds me every moment of something wonderfully mysterious.

I am spoken for

So, I’m wondering…What does your marriage do you for you?


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Martha Orlando said…
My marriage to Danny has been my everything. When I read your beautiful tribute to your lovely wife and your many years together, it spoke straight to my heart. May you enjoy every moment of being soul mates!
Blessings for the New Year, Jay!
Bill (cycleguy) said…
Great tribute to your mate Jay. one of these days maybe I will get to meet you and your amazing wife.
Jay Cookingham said…
Thanks Bill! I sure hope to meet ya on one of these trips through Indiana...it will be a blast for sure!
Jay Cookingham said…
Its so wonderful to have a healthy marriage and the blessing it gives. Bless you and Danny...may your marriage continue to be a testament to His love. Thanks Martha!
floyd said…
Great love and respect shown to your soul mate here, Jay. I'm like you in that God used my wife to rescue me as well. When I say she is my better half, that's an understatement!

A wife is a gift of love from God, they help fulfill us and balance us... not easy task.

This is a good way to start the year. Thanks for the reminder of what I too have from God.
Jay Cookingham said…
I know Christine was like a Delta Force of rescue for me bro'! Blessings on your marriage dude.
Michael said…
Marriage is one of God's most amazing mirrors for looking at the reflection of our hearts. And as you point out, Jay, it is a wondrous tool for shaping us into the image of Christ. As for beauty, God made people in his image: it took both males and females to do so.

My marriage to Sheila, like yours to Christine, is a rescue and restoration project. Sheila makes me such a better man! And she takes my breath away.... :)
Jay Cookingham said…
Love your heart brother...hope to see ya soon!
TCAvey said…
Great way to start the new year!

My marriage is a testimony of God's goodness, mercy and foreknowledge. He gave me the best spouse ever!
Jay Cookingham said…
That's a testimony that will speak volumes to a world that needs to hear it TC!
jasonS said…
Great idea for starting this new year and beautiful honoring of your wife and marriage. You're right--it doesn't make it "soft"--it makes us alive in a way we couldn't have imagined. Thanks Jay.

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