10 Ways to be a Faithful Husband

 

“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” Ephesians 5:33

chris me 08 5 I absolutely love being married, of course having the perfect wife helps but I am so thankful that Christine decided to accept my proposal 28 years ago. This awesome adventure we share is a constant reminder that God is good and that marriage is good for me.

For sure there are more than ten ways to be a faithful husband but this is a small list included in my book (Retooled). Ponder over them and see if they speak to you…many are not radical or new…but I believe they are huge in importance. I also believe that I need to review this list constantly and make sure that it’s more than a list.

10 Ways to be a faithful husband

  1. Love your wife
  2. Guard your marriage (emotionally and physically)
  3. Pray for your marriage
  4. Remember the special days (anniversaries,birthdays)
  5. Be the spiritual leader of the home
  6. Avoid criticism (in fact…don’t!)
  7. Have regular date times
  8. Speak well of your marriage (in public as well as private)
  9. Encourage your wife (in public as well as private)
  10. Show and tell (how grateful you are you married her)

So my brothers…what do you think of my list? Want to add anything?

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bill (cycleguy) said…
I would say that about covers it all. I might add one but not sure if it fits. Tell her it is okay to leave work and not feel guilty if she doesn't feel well (emotionally) to be there.
Jay Cookingham said…
I would agree Bill...that would be protecting her in a special way. Thanks for the input!
MichaelDPerkins said…
Take up for her is the one I would add.
Jay Cookingham said…
Michael...take up the: laundry? Not sure what you meant there but serving our wives is always a great way to go.
Dusty Rayburn said…
Surprise her with extraordinary effort on the "unspecial" days.
Tony Alicea said…
I think he means defend her, make her feel safe at all times.
Tony Alicea said…
You are such an encouragement Jay. I'll keep these points ready for when my time comes! :)
Jay Cookingham said…
That's a great one Dusty...might have to steal it for the book...;-0
Jay Cookingham said…
Thanks Bro'...marriage is a great adventure...my personal list is actually much longer!
Jay Cookingham said…
You're probably right dude...I was just playing with Michael...
*~Michelle~* said…
How 'bout a little sista input ;)

This is awesome "Guard your marriage (emotionally and physically) "

that word "guard" just brings about an immence feeling of protection, honor and comfort.....all wrapped up in one.

*high five*
Jay Cookingham said…
Thanks for the high five sista! Appreciate the input...bless ya!
Kevin M. said…
Great list Jay!

The only thing I would add is getting away without the kids at least once a year. :)
Jay Cookingham said…
That's another good one...will you watch my kids? ;-0 Thanks Kevin!
Joey Basta said…
Simple but very helpful. My wife Carmin and I are newly married (8 Months) and I needed to be introduced to this list :) I love all of the list. I will be typing the list out and printing it so I can frame it and place it where I can read it daily so this list can sink in and that I can apply it. Awesome!
Jay Cookingham said…
Joey, thanks for commenting! Marriage will change you bro...only for the better! Enjoy every bit of the adventure!
Dfj said…
You make it sound so easy and simple. It's much harder that you make out
Jay Cookingham said…
Didn't mean to make it sound simple because loving our wives in the manner they deserve isn't easy...not because of them but because we want our own way...or at least I know I do. The list is just a reminder of some of the things we need to do be the husbands our wives need. Thanks for the comment!
Dfj said…
What do you do when your wife drives you away due to her lack of respect for you? If she lies to your face and denies it blatantly and only responds in (an awkward) apology after arguing with her about the fact that she is lying and then turns the blame onto you to get herself out of the limelight? It seems like she needs a fool of a man who will follow her regardless of his needs. Perhaps there should be more articles about how to be a good wife? It seems like a constant struggle and there are times when I feel like just running away from her clutches. Should it all be about the husband being the one to keep things together? In this day and age where female rights are getting out of hand (swinging in the direction of man's power being taken away), how can there be symmetry when the wife has no respect for her husband? Thanks for your response by the way. I am just curious about your point of view on this matter :)
Jay Cookingham said…
Good questions...unfortunately, there are no easy answers. As for more articles about being a good wife...I'll leave that for the ladies who read my blog...I'm pretty sure that I'm not qualified to do that!

I'm not sure if you are a follower of Christ but I am and the Biblical basis for my marriage is found in Ephesians 5:25-27.

"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless."

I don't think there much wiggle room for not taking the lead in demonstrating love in a marriage covenant. It doesn't matter what my wife's response is to my love...I'm still suppose to love her. Now, I do believe that it takes two to "keep things together" because that is the way God designed it to work. But my love is NOT dependent on my wife's behavior...it's me being obedient to what God has asked of me.

Again, it's hard to convey everything I feel about this in a few paragraphs and I'm not trying to downplay your struggle. I take marriage very seriously and believe it one of the best ways to discover more about ourselves...and I believe God wants it to bless both husband and wife. I will pray for you and please keep the conversation going if you choose...I don't have all the answers but I know Father God does.
Betsy said…
Hey Jay,

I think this is great, but please dont forget the lovely compliments I really need to here that every once in a week (lol) especially when I'm trying so hard to do so.

Betsy 
Jay Cookingham said…
Absolutely...we all need to speak compliments to our wives...reminding them how wonderful they are!
Anonymous said…
I think that i am a helpmeet to my husband. My husband do not know how to love because the things he have said to me that is hurtful about me to others. I have forgive him so many times. I believe in marriage and what God word says how the husband suppose love the wife and care for her. I like your list. All i want is love from my husband and he be there for me. I want to respect.him .

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